The Book | Choosing Intimacy

Cindi J Martin's book, Choosing Intimacy

Are you ready to explore Christ's model for mutuality and deeper relationships?

We all want to live in harmony with one another, yet the reality is that there is friction, there are deep hurts, and there are power struggles in every area of life. Many suffer from fractured relationships and simultaneously long for deeper connections. Some of us have been harmed by our spouses, friends, family members, or even church leaders. Some of us have been the ones who have wounded others.

Choosing Intimacy offers a refreshing biblical perspective, over 40 years of professional counseling experience, personal insights, and practical skills for overcoming the power struggles that strangle intimacy. It gives men and women, pastors and leaders, and Christians of all backgrounds the tools found in Scripture that are needed to cultivate

mutually-satisfying relationships—the way God intended.

Praise for Choosing Intimacy

“Too few people know the joy of mutually loving and serving one another. If you are tired of the dictator/doormat or parent/child type relationship, then Choosing Intimacy will help you level up.”

Steve Arterburn
Radio Host and Best-Selling Author

“Choosing Intimacy guides us beyond our limited capacities for closeness. It invites us to develop deeper, more enriching relationships where companions don’t compete for position or power but rather share space that is expansive enough to encompass the best interests of both self and others.”

Jill J. Hubbard, PhD
Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Co-host of New Life Live! Radio Broadcast

“Truly biblical and freeing. This practical resource is filled with stories that will warm the heart and chill the soul, exposing how unbiblical views of hierarchical marriage can be. It opens doors for deeper, more intimate relationships.”

Philip B. Payne, PhD
The University of Cambridge New Testament Scholar and Best-Selling Author

“Our hearts were made for meaningful connections with God and each other. Choosing Intimacy helps open the door for deeper and closer relationships.”

Dr. Timothy Clinton
President and CEO, American Association of Christian Counselors

What will I learn from this book?

Readers will gain invaluable and practical advice about their closest relationships. More importantly, they’ll be reminded about God’s original design for our human relationships. This book uniquely and compassionately addresses specific relationship topics, such as:

Coping with separation and divorce
Healing after the death of a spouse
Leaning into grief to find true healing
Navigating the loss of a friend
Communicating with difficult family members
Building intimacy after being hurt
Cultivating deeper intimacy in any relationship

Note from a reader:

"Choosing Intimacy is unique because of Cindi’s background as a therapist. If you ever wanted to know what a Christian therapist has to say about important topics like sex, marriage, family conflicts, friendship, or grief, you’ll want to read this book (and if you already see a therapist, use this as a supplement). Her unique professional perspective is coupled with a deep love and regard for Scripture, making this a book you will want to reference again and again through the various trials of life. Cindi especially has a heart for anyone who has been mistreated or hurt by patriarchal teachings on marriage and love."

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Praise for Choosing Intimacy

Steve Arterburn Radio Host and Best-Selling Author

Jill J. Hubbard, PhD Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Co-host of New Life Live! Radio Broadcast

Philip B. Payne, PhD The University of Cambridge New Testament Scholar and Best-Selling Author

Dr. Timothy Clinton President and CEO, American Association of Christian Counselors